The Art Of Saying NO

My first blog.... I have chosen a topic which I had decide to never write !
Its very important to say No, when deemed necessary. Its an art to say NO.... an art I haven't learnt well...

With the urge to learn this beautiful art, I dare to present my analysis based on the obesveration of friends and colleagues.

One class of people -- would say YES and would never actually do.. well even if you follow up on them... confirm repeatedly, Their answer YES, pukka se, haan re for sure , blah blah... bull shit ! This Yes is never observed ! Once the Yes goes into the past and Now Yes cannot be a possibilty, you can surely expect an excuse !

I strongly suggest "This class better not be followed.. but one can dare to if one can present his/her case well... that is the excuse part of it!"

Then I came across second class of people.... They can actually sell their "trying their best" story. Best way to identify this kind will be "I will try.. pukka se" and wouldn't do it ! This art has dumb-founded me... how people find sympathy over their inability to do something.. but in actuality.. its perhaps just a plain No I wont. Its a mild way of saying No. The person at the receiving end will feel good on the person at least trying it and just coz of inability cant make it/do it and purpose solved ! Or otherwise once used to it might get frustrated or simply knows the answer !

Third Class -- They are straight, true and would tell NO/(give probability to make it) on the face if its not gonna be possible for them to make it. On the face of this, it might sound good that this person is true.. but who likes to hear blunt NO .. this NO/truth hurts .. so i strongly suggest people who are blunt.. well its good.. but you must back it by a good enough explanation on why "cant make it".

Fourth Class which I would like to call it "Ideal Class" -- Never say NO and try your level best to make it... Ideal Class, Dumb Class. Too Good to be true. But hey.. people falling in this category exist. You will find people who would do or at least try their best to do it. I dont have words to describe this category... coz at every new moment I find contrasting words to describe it! so lets leave it at that.. :-)


NO is an important componant of conversation, coz without NO .. it might be the case that you can be found taken for granted ! I say use NO... in any form.. but use it.. falling into any of the category is fine .. but not no NO..hehe.. i mean "Not able to say NO" !

Analyze your traits, Train yourself to mould to any type as situation be ! Why all!! At different situations, different ways of saying NO should be used..... of course you would know this..... ah.... so its time for me to end this first blog of mine and allow you to work towards "Mastering NO".. its an Art.. NOPE its NOT.. NO IT IS... well ... first step to learning "The Art of Saying NO".. ;-) cherio..